#intergenerational-connection

#intergenerational-connection

Do you know how your parents met? Where your grandparents went to school? Your mother's first job? My friend (and travel agent!) Carol Shaddux came up with a fun way to use the Do You Know Scale, a 20-item questionnaire I developed with my colleague Marshall Duke to assess knowledge of family stories. Carol suggests writing out each of the 20 questions on a strip of paper and having each family member pick one and then either tell or ask to hear that story.

During a family dinner last year, she interrupted our meal - "You know, your great-grandfather was an illegal bootlegger. He even invented a popular cocktail." She launched into stories about secret liquor production behind a clothing store, an unheard-of relative on the lam called "South American Joe," and narrow escapes from the law. My father occasionally interrupted by saying, "That didn't happen," but my wife, kids, and I were completely captivated.