I'd spent a year getting pregnant, then unpregnant. I'd wake in the middle of the night and remember: heartbeat, heartbeat. At times, I felt absurd for my grief. I couldn't ascertain what the metric of a mother was, what goalpost had to be met. Had I met it? Surely grief like this love like this had to be more deeply earned?
If you are undergoing fertility treatment, you may be strong and capable, but you don't need to go through it alone. Social media and volunteer organizations have made it possible for fertility patients to support each other, and that is great, but it is not the end of the story.
The debate centers on whether to unwind Colorado's sperm donor regulations, concerned that they have deterred donations for aspiring parents while emphasizing the need for oversight.