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4 days agoBeing in your forties and suddenly understanding why your parents were so tired has nothing to do with aging. It's the moment you realize they weren't tired from work or from raising you. They were tired from pretending to have answers they didn't have, every single day, for decades. - Silicon Canals
Research on cognitive labor suggests that the "mental load" people carry isn't just about remembering tasks. It appears to operate across multiple stages: anticipating needs, identifying options, deciding among them, and then monitoring the outcome. Parents don't just do things. They run a continuous simulation of what could go wrong, who needs what next, and how to make it all look effortless.
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