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Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 hour agoPsychology says people who would always rather call than text aren't demanding more of your time - they're asking for the one thing that separates a real conversation from the performance of one, which is the sound of another person being alive on the other end, and that need is not inconvenient, it is human - Silicon Canals
Phone calls foster deeper connections than text messages, capturing nuances of emotion that typed words cannot convey.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 hours agoI'm 37 and the friendships in my life that have lasted are the ones where we stopped pretending - stopped curating what we showed each other, stopped performing the version of our lives that made sense on paper - and what replaced the pretending is the best thing I have built in the last decade - Silicon Canals
Authentic friendships emerge when individuals drop their facades and share their true struggles with each other.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
16 hours agoPeople who grew up being told they were too sensitive didn't become less sensitive. They became editors. Every reaction now passes through a filter that decides whether the feeling is proportionate enough to be allowed out, and that filtering process is so automatic they genuinely believe they're calm when they're actually curating. - Silicon Canals
Sensitive children often suppress their emotions, leading to automated behaviors that mask true feelings.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
1 hour agoI'm 66 and the most important relationship of my adult life has been with solitude - not as a consolation for the company I didn't have, but as the place where I have always been most honest, most creative, and most recognizably myself, and I spent too many years being embarrassed about that before I understood it was simply how I was built - Silicon Canals
Solitude allows for self-discovery and personal reflection, free from societal expectations and external pressures.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoI'm 66 and I spent forty years trying to stay positive through everything - and what I actually created was a life where nobody knew me well enough to notice when I was drowning - Silicon Canals
Staying positive can lead to hidden struggles and emotional isolation, as individuals often mask their true feelings to appear strong.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoI'm 37 and I realized I wasn't actually a good person the day my wife said "you're kind to strangers and cruel to the people closest to you" - and the worst part wasn't the accusation, it was that I couldn't argue because I'd been using up all my patience on people who didn't matter and coming home empty - Silicon Canals
Kindness should be abundant at home, not rationed for public interactions, to foster authentic connections with loved ones.
fromDefector
5 days agoFor Now, ABS Makes Good Theater | Defector
Under the ABS challenge system, a team begins each game with two challenges. If a player gets an umpire's call overturned, their team retains the challenge. In effect, this means a team has unlimited challenges until they get two wrong.
Boston Red Sox
fromwww.theguardian.com
13 hours agoIt's official: scientists aren't funny. But it doesn't have to be this way | Helen Pilcher
The findings confirm research that I conducted more than 20 years ago. Under the guise of the Comedy Research Project, Timandra Harkness and I performed a randomised clinical trial to assess whether or not science can be funny.
Humor
#emotional-resilience
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 hours agoPsychology says people who mellow out as they get older aren't the ones who suffered less - they're the ones who decided, at some point and without always knowing they were deciding, that the suffering was going to make them more open rather than less, and that decision, remade daily in small ways that nobody notices, is the entire difference - Silicon Canals
Emotional responses to life's challenges can change over time, leading to greater peace and stability despite ongoing difficulties.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoPeople who always laugh at their own pain aren't just funny. They survived childhoods where being sad meant being a burden, and that had nothing to do with resilience, and their humor is a dissociation technique that everyone mistakes for strength - Silicon Canals
Some individuals cope with pain by making jokes immediately, masking deeper emotional struggles rooted in childhood environments that discourage expressing feelings.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPeople who were labeled 'too sensitive' often became adults who read rooms before anyone speaks, and the difference between those two things is about 20 years of misunderstanding - Silicon Canals
Sensitivity can evolve from a perceived weakness into a valuable skill for understanding emotional dynamics in various situations.
from48 hills
2 days agoDrama Masks: Mad, bad, and dangerous to see - 48 hills
The final show I review below got me looks that made me feel like a fish in a bowl. First, the private security at the door had two Valiant rent-a-cops who scowling at me-and only me-with that same 'Give me an excuse!' glare I've gotten from real cops all my life.
Arts
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoI was quietly unhappy with my life for years and the most unsettling part wasn't the unhappiness - it was how functional I remained inside it, how well I performed contentment, how convincingly I answered fine to every person who asked, including myself - Silicon Canals
Pretending to be okay while feeling empty can trap individuals in a cycle of unhappiness.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
16 hours agoThere's a specific kind of tiredness that has nothing to do with sleep. It comes from years of translating yourself into a version that other people could handle, and the exhaustion lives in the gap between who you are and who you've been performing so consistently that even you forgot there was a difference. - Silicon Canals
Workplace burnout often stems from the exhaustion of pretending to be someone you're not, rather than from overwork itself.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPeople who are kind and intelligent but have no close friends have usually spent so long being competent in every situation that they've forgotten, or never learned, how to be helpless in front of someone - and helplessness, offered honestly, is one of the primary raw materials that close friendship has always been made from - Silicon Canals
Real friendship is built on vulnerability and connection, not competence or capability.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoI hated small talk for thirty years because I thought it was shallow - until I noticed that every meaningful relationship I've ever had started with a conversation about the weather, a shared queue, or a throwaway comment that neither of us expected to lead anywhere - Silicon Canals
Small talk serves as a gateway to deeper conversations and meaningful relationships, contrary to the belief that it is shallow and pointless.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoYou know a woman has lost her joy in life when she describes her days accurately and without feeling - when the words are all correct and the tone is completely flat and the account of her own life sounds like something being reported rather than lived, and she doesn't notice the flatness because she has been inside it long enough that it just sounds like how things are - Silicon Canals
Emotional flatness can creep in, making life feel like a series of tasks rather than meaningful experiences.
#emotional-intelligence
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI spent my whole life feeling inadequate around 'educated' people until I realized that being able to read a room, sense what someone needs without them saying it, and know when to stay quiet is a form of genius most PhDs will never possess - Silicon Canals
The traditional hierarchy of intelligence undervalues emotional awareness and interpersonal skills, which are crucial for understanding human interactions.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoBehavioral scientists found that the most emotionally intelligent people in a room are often the quietest, not because they have nothing to say but because they learned early that observation protects you in ways that speaking never did - Silicon Canals
Quiet individuals in professional settings often possess high emotional intelligence, using silence as a strategic tool for observation and understanding.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPeople who go quiet when they're hurt instead of raising their voice learned somewhere very early that their anger wasn't received as information. It was received as an inconvenience. So they stopped sending the signal and started absorbing the damage, and they've been doing it so long they sometimes mistake silence for calm - Silicon Canals
Silence during conflict often indicates deeper emotional pain rather than composure or passive aggression.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says the most self-centered people in any room aren't the ones who talk loudest - they're the ones who respond to every story you tell with a story about themselves, so automatically and so consistently that they've long since stopped noticing they do it - Silicon Canals
Conversational narcissism involves shifting focus in conversations back to oneself, often without awareness, hindering genuine connection.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoPeople who laugh at their own pain before anyone else can aren't resilient. They've simply learned that if they get to the joke first, nobody gets to decide whether it was serious, and that preemptive deflection has been protecting something very specific since childhood. - Silicon Canals
Self-deprecating humor often masks unresolved pain and serves as a defense mechanism rather than a sign of emotional resilience.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoI stopped explaining myself when I apologize and the reactions taught me exactly which people in my life had been treating my explanations as retractions. To them, sorry with a reason attached meant sorry didn't really count, and sorry without one meant I was finally admitting fault on their terms. - Silicon Canals
Apologies without explanations reveal who truly listens and who seeks loopholes.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says if someone secretly dislikes you they'll almost never say it out loud - but their body will, in the microseconds before they've decided what their face is supposed to be doing, and learning to read those moments is one of the more uncomfortable social skills available to anyone willing to develop it - Silicon Canals
Microexpressions reveal true emotions faster than conscious control, providing insights into feelings that words may conceal.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoThere's a specific kind of loneliness that belongs to people who are funny in groups but completely unreachable one-on-one, and it's the loneliness of having learned that performance is safer than proximity - Silicon Canals
Affiliative humor fosters connection but can prevent deeper intimacy, leading to a specific kind of loneliness for those who rely on it.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoPsychology says people who ask 'how can I learn to be more empathetic' already possess the one trait that matters most - self-awareness - while people who claim they're already empathetic rarely are - Silicon Canals
Self-awareness is essential for developing genuine empathy and emotional intelligence.
fromVulture
1 week agoFact-Checking Chris Fleming Won Late Night This Week
ARMY Twitter was aflutter with accusations that the warm-up comic for The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon made a racist joke. He said, 'Anybody here from the North? No? Nobody?' Fans interpreted that as being directed at the band, implying that one of them was from North Korea.
Humor
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoI'm 37 and I've spent my entire adult life being told I'm 'too sensitive' or 'reading into things' - but the truth is I notice when people's tone shifts, when they avoid eye contact, when their kindness feels performative, and I'm exhausted from pretending I don't see what I see - Silicon Canals
Sensory processing sensitivity is a biological trait affecting 20% of the population, leading to deeper emotional and sensory processing.
Humor
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoPeople who were the funny one in their family almost never developed humor because life was joyful. They developed it because someone needed to defuse a room before it detonated, and comedy was the only intervention a child could perform without being told to stay out of it. - Silicon Canals
Comedy often develops as a survival mechanism in tense family environments, rather than being an innate talent or personality trait.
fromNature
2 weeks agoKnock knock, no one's there. Study finds scientists' jokes mostly fall flat
Two-thirds of the attempts at humour during these talks fell flat, drawing either polite chuckles or no laughter at all. Almost one-quarter of attempted jokes were judged as a "moderate success", eliciting audible laughter from around half the audience. Only 9% prompted most or all of the attendees to laugh enthusiastically.
Humor
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month agoPalestine Comedy Club review roving performance collective finds light in darkness
They are exploring the nature of comedy and standup as a response to being a Palestinian now. This documentary follows the group as they attempt to put together a national tour, with shows in Ramallah, Nablus, Haifa, Nazareth and Jerusalem. In so doing, they encounter the basic problem of struggling through roadblocks, and sheer dismay and horror at the wholesale destruction of the war between Israel and Hamas.
Film
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoAnatoly: An In-depth Look at His Heavyweight Humor
Anyone who spends untold hours surfing the Web for humorous content will eventually find the work of one Vladimir Shmondenko, a prankster who goes by the name Anatoly. He's developed a faithful following, and, as far as I can tell, makes a comfortable living entirely from his TikTok and YouTube videos.
Humor
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoThe "Ins" and "Outs" of Comedy: Dealing With the Outflow
Readers who saw my previous post will recall its focus on a recurring pattern of laughter and humor found during my deep dive into the humor of the Seinfeld series. I wondered why we tend to laugh at various things going into our bodies and tried to explain why we might be so inclined using the Mutual Vulnerability Theory of Laughter.
Humor
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