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fromPsychology Today
1 day agoMy Child Has Autism: How Do I Know the Program Is Working?
If the application of behavioral techniques does not produce large enough effects for practical value, then the application has failed. Practical value is whatever you define as meaningful for your child's life.
Mental health
fromLos Angeles Times
1 day agoFormer Orange County sheriff's deputy had child sexual abuse images on his phone, prosecutors say
Fernando Melo Flores, 40, faces up to four years and two months in prison if convicted on all counts. He was assigned to John Wayne Airport when he allegedly went to his ex-girlfriend's home at night and repeatedly called and texted her, prompting the woman to get a restraining order against him.
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
13 hours agoPsychology says people who replay conversations in their head didn't develop that habit by accident - most of them learned early that saying the wrong thing had real consequences, and now their brain replays every exchange searching for mistakes and misfires like a security system that was installed in childhood and has never once been turned off - Silicon Canals
Replaying conversations stems from early experiences where words had significant consequences, leading to a defense mechanism of constant analysis.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
13 hours agoPsychology says people who replay conversations in their head didn't develop that habit by accident - most of them learned early that saying the wrong thing had real consequences, and now their brain replays every exchange searching for mistakes and misfires like a security system that was installed in childhood and has never once been turned off - Silicon Canals
Replaying conversations stems from early experiences where words had significant consequences, leading to a defense mechanism of constant analysis.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who were the emotional anchor for their families rarely experience loneliness as a single event. They experience it as a slow accounting where they realize the support only ever flowed in one direction and nobody designed a return current. - Silicon Canals
Family support often flows in one direction, with one person bearing the emotional load while others remain uninvolved.
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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who describe themselves as self-sufficient aren't always describing a strength. Sometimes they're describing the scar tissue that formed where the need for other people used to be, and they've carried it so long they genuinely mistake the numbness for peace. - Silicon Canals
Self-reliance is often mistaken for strength, but true strength includes the ability to seek help and share vulnerabilities.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI'm 66 and I recently understood that the reason I find it so hard to ask for help is not independence - it is the very specific and very old belief that needing something from another person is the first step toward becoming a burden, and a burden, in the house I grew up in, was the one thing nobody was allowed to be - Silicon Canals
Independence can often mask fear, leading to a reluctance to ask for help and a belief that needing assistance is a weakness.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPeople who grew up watching their parents stay together unhappily often become adults who are simultaneously terrified of commitment and terrified of leaving. They inherited the architecture of endurance without ever being shown what it was supposed to protect - Silicon Canals
Children of unhappy marriages may develop relational paralysis, feeling unable to commit or leave due to learned endurance without understanding its purpose.
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fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who grew up in the 1960s and 70s don't handle hardship better than everyone else because they are stronger - they handle it better because they were never offered the alternative, and a person who was never offered the alternative develops a relationship with difficulty that people who were offered it spend their whole lives trying to build in a gym - Silicon Canals
Struggling is a norm for my generation because we never knew life could be comfortable.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says the adults most likely to end up in therapy aren't the ones who had dramatic or obviously painful childhoods - they're the ones who grew up in households where everything was technically fine, nobody was cruel, and something essential was quietly missing in a way that took decades to find the words for - Silicon Canals
Emotional neglect in seemingly fine childhoods can have profound effects, leaving individuals feeling their inner world doesn't matter.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoMost people don't realize that children who grow up without affection don't struggle with love as adults. They struggle with trusting it, because it never felt safe to depend on - Silicon Canals
Emotional unavailability stems from a lack of early affection, leading to difficulties in accepting love despite an inherent capacity for it.
fromScary Mommy
1 day agoOK, So Everybody's Struggling To Pay For Their Kids' Extracurriculars, Right?
The original poster (OP) wrote, 'My second child is starting high school next year and is hell-bent on joining the marching band. I was in marching band myself when I was in high school and I wasn't against her joining. The discipline would be good for her. Then I found out how much it costs.'
Parenting
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fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoNeuroscience reveals that the calmest person in any crisis isn't naturally fearless - their brain learned to delay panic because their childhood required them to be functional before they were allowed to be afraid - Silicon Canals
Calmness under pressure is a learned response, not merely a personality trait or temperament.
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fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says adults who have no close friends aren't necessarily antisocial or unlikable. Many of them learned in childhood that being vulnerable leads to pain, and they grew up assuming that keeping people at a distance is safer - Silicon Canals
Many people appear self-sufficient but struggle with deep-seated fears of vulnerability due to early attachment experiences.
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fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThere's a generation of people who were taught to apologize for their needs so effectively that as adults they experience wanting something as a form of aggression against whoever might have to provide it - Silicon Canals
Many adults associate expressing needs with guilt, viewing requests as impositions rather than natural interactions.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoChildren who grew up in homes where one parent was the peacekeeper and the other was the storm almost always become adults who can read a room in seconds but have no idea what they actually feel when nobody else is in it - Silicon Canals
Emotional intelligence can stem from childhood experiences in volatile family dynamics, leading to heightened perception of others but self-blindness.
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fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoPsychology says the adults most likely to feel invisible in their own families are not the most difficult ones - they're the ones who made themselves so consistently available, so reliably capable, so quietly present, that everyone around them stopped noticing the person and started relying on the function - Silicon Canals
Reliability can lead to emotional invisibility within family dynamics, where the capable individual is overlooked despite their struggles.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPeople raised in the 1960s and 70s didn't have optimized morning routines - they had chores, a bus to catch, and parents who didn't negotiate, and somehow that produced adults who know how to begin things without being ready - Silicon Canals
Morning routines have shifted from simple survival tasks to complex, optimized rituals filled with self-care and intention.
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPsychology suggests the most reliable sign that someone had a difficult childhood isn't what they tell you about it - it's how startled they look when you are simply kind to them without a reason, as though kindness without a transaction attached is something the body recognizes as unusual before the mind has finished deciding what to do with it - Silicon Canals
Kindness can trigger confusion in those with a history of trauma due to learned survival responses from past experiences.
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fromPsychology Today
1 month agoKids Today: Thoughts From Research, Practice, and the Classroom
Each generation faces unique challenges; today's youth deserve recognition for their perspectives rather than dismissal, as evidenced by clinical research, therapeutic practice, and educational settings.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoThe people who become the calmest adults are almost never the ones who had calm childhoods. They're the ones who grew up in houses where someone else's mood was the weather, and they learned to regulate the entire room before they ever learned to regulate themselves. - Silicon Canals
Children from chaotic homes can develop heightened emotional awareness and calmness, contrary to the belief that such environments only produce turbulence.
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoChildren's Mental Health in the US: An Outsider's View
The Missing Social Unit From middle school onward, American children don't belong to a "class" in any stable sense. They move continuously - subject to subject, room to room, teacher to teacher. There's extensive discourse around respect, equity, and inclusion. But there's remarkably little structured attention to the actual social life of any group. Because there isn't really a group.
Education
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Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoWhat Do I Do If My Child Won't Talk About an Upsetting Time?
Children may not verbally process upsetting events for various developmentally appropriate or concerning reasons, requiring parents to identify the underlying cause through patient, non-judgmental engagement.
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