"It is only in this existential reality of the present where decisions, choices, behaviors, and actions can be initiated. What that then means, in terms of bullying, which only takes place as a choice in the present, is that one can choose to be a bully, or one can choose not to be a bully. Either choice will have consequences, for which the individual will be and is responsible (Falla et al., 2023; Menesini et al., 2013; Purje, 2014)."
"What all of this is alluding to is the immutable universality that blaming the past (which cannot be changed) does not initiate bullying. Bullying (as with any other behavior) is an action that occurs as a result of the self-initiated thinking and the self-initiated action that has-and is-taking place in the existential present (Falla et al., 2023; Menesini et al., 2013)."
"following the eventual philosophical intercession of René Descartes, in the 17th century, life and/or existence as we know consists of the following: Life has two suppositions and one reality. The first supposition is to declare that there are shared assumptions that the past exists, which cannot be changed. The second supposition is that there is the shared assumption of the idea of a future; and the third assumption is that there is an existing physical reality of the present."
Life comprises past, future, and present. The past is fixed and unchangeable; the future is an idea; the present is the only reality where decisions occur. Decisions, choices, behaviors, and actions originate in the existential present. Bullying is a present choice; individuals can choose to bully or not, and either choice produces consequences for which the individual is responsible. Blaming the past does not initiate bullying and relinquishes personal agency. Thoughts, choices, and actions are self-activated. Avoiding responsibility by blaming others reduces opportunities for personal growth and corrective change.
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