"Dating and relationship interactions are often awkward and uncomfortable. This is especially true during essential conversations, like asking someone out, asking for more commitment, or breaking up with a romantic partner. These conversations can feel so anxious and embarrassing that people may avoid them altogether-and miss out on possible partners, committed relationships, and more fulfilling connections in the process. Furthermore, avoiding such awkwardness could be a reason why younger people are experiencing an "intimacy crisis" today."
"Kunkel and associates (2003) began by explaining that the awkwardness, insecurity, and embarrassment we feel in dating and relationship conversations occur because the interactions can threaten two aspects of our self and identity-what they call face. On one hand, a conversation can threaten our positive face, which is the desire to be liked and approved of by dating and relationship partners. On the other hand, it can also threaten our negative face, which is the desire to be free from constraint"
Dating and relationship interactions often feel awkward and may prompt avoidance of essential conversations such as asking someone out, requesting greater commitment, or ending a relationship. Anxiety and embarrassment arise because such conversations threaten two aspects of face: positive face (the desire to be liked and approved) and negative face (the desire to be free from constraint). Common threats include efforts to remain attracted and connected without appearing overbearing or pressuring. Avoidance of these interactions can cause missed opportunities, less committed relationships, and contribute to an intimacy decline among younger people. Face-saving, indirect approaches to initiating, intensifying, and ending relationships can reduce discomfort and facilitate clearer communication.
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