"Most textbooks and self-help manuals about communication are based on models that are seldom about what is between and beyond the interactions of individuals. There is assertiveness training, refuting irrational thoughts, conflict resolution, and so on. All without the infinitely wider contextual applications of living. Adversarial disagreements and polarization are at a high level, and couples therapists are overloaded with the presenting problem of "They are having communication discord.""
""Any two things that oscillate at about the same interval, if they're physically near each other, will gradually tend to lock in and pulse at the same interval." This is like seeing two pendulums starting at different speeds that eventually move in harmony.This process is available to humans. Women in a college dorm will often experience their menstrual cycles at the same time;"
Most communication training focuses on discrete skills—assertiveness, cognitive reframing, conflict resolution—without addressing wider contextual and relational dynamics. Interpersonal communication can operate as continuous intersubjectivity, a mutual blending of consciousnesses that enables rhythmic entrainment between people. Biological and behavioral systems that oscillate at similar intervals tend to synchronize, a phenomenon observable in pendulums, menstrual cycle alignment, and coordinated Aikido practice. Shared harmonic frameworks, like an Indian raga, facilitate simultaneous verbal and physical synchrony and graceful interaction. When synchrony fails, interactions can become painful, missed opportunities, or escalate into polarization and chronic couples' discord. Therapists and practitioners face high demand to resolve such communication breakdowns.
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