"Cold weather (for those of us in the Northern hemisphere and within certain latitudes) invites closeness. Layers come off not because it's hot, but because it's... well, time to warm each other up. There's a reason so many mammals hibernate in pairs. Long nights, short days, and nowhere to be? That's nature saying, Slow down. Cuddle up. Maybe get a little frisky."
"As a sexologist, I say: lean in. The holidays can be a perfect time to cultivate erotic energy. Not the Hollywood kind that needs mistletoe and champagne, but the slow-burn kind that builds from shared warmth, playful teasing, and permission to want. Let tension build a little longer before you rush to extinguish it. A lingering glance over mulled wine can do more for your libido than an expensive gift ever could. Although those are nice too."
"And if you're single? You're not excluded from the party. Use the season to court yourself. Sleep deeply, buy flannel sheets that feel decadent, light candles even when no one's coming over (although we get a bit twitchy about those in California ~ fires, you know. Maybe a lava lamp instead). Pleasure doesn't require a plus-one; it just requires presence."
The holidays create conditions for intimate, slow-burn erotic energy as cold weather and long nights invite closeness and shared warmth. Couples can use domestic rituals—shared baths, reading in bed, lowering the thermostat—to transform routine domesticity into playful erotic opportunity. Singles can practice erotic self-care through deep sleep, luxurious sheets, candlelight or alternatives, and focused presence. Allowing tension to build through lingering glances and playful teasing fosters desire more than hurried encounters or expensive gifts. New Year's can serve as a marker of possibility rather than pressure, offering permission to explore connection or celebrate personal resilience.
Read at Psychology Today
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