"I think it's fine, or at least unavoidable to find someone who isn't your spouse attractive, but things get extremely complicated when you act on that-and further twisted when that object of desire happens to be related to your spouse. That's not a road I recommend going down. The less time you spend comparing your wife to her sister, the better off you are. Don't go there."
"Is there any hope of rekindling things with your wife? Yes, but you'll have to put some work into it. Firstly, you should give your wife a break. How much do you look like the man she married? And what was going on when she "let herself go"? Was she raising kids? Doing things that benefited you, like housework? More"
Sexual attraction to someone outside a marriage, especially a relative of the spouse, creates serious complications and risks. Acting on that attraction is strongly discouraged. Avoid comparing a spouse to others and deliberately redirect thoughts away from the object of desire. Rekindling sexual and emotional connection with a long-term partner is possible but requires active effort. Consider contextual reasons for physical or behavioral changes, such as child-rearing or caregiving, and acknowledge the spouse's contributions. Offer empathy, patience, shared activities, and focused work to rebuild mutual intimacy and attraction.
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