"Your sign-off exposes the futility of your question-you can't uncreate a monster (I'm not calling your wife a monster; you did). This is a real be-careful-what-you-wish-for moment, but then I have to wonder what you were actually wishing for. By one measure, your foray into sex-club frequenting has been a smashing success. Your wife took to it like a horny fish to ... a bunch of other horny fish."
"Did you think that she'd be more reserved or less popular? Did you ever envision how this could play out during your years-long campaign to get her in the club, or did your fantasy end when you walked through the door? I feel for you, though. You don't know what a situation will feel like until you're in it. Emotions can be tricky to predict."
A husband convinced his wife to try a sex club for their anniversary; she enthusiastically embraced the scene, attending twice weekly and having multiple partners. He expected fantasy fulfillment but now experiences unexpected jealousy, fear of abandonment, and regret. He asked his wife to stop, but she refused and continues frequenting the club. The situation has flipped his original intent into a source of marital conflict. The reply criticizes his role in enabling this outcome while also acknowledging emotional complexity, noting that fantasies and reality can produce surprising, difficult feelings that were hard to predict.
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