"I repeatedly watched video footage I found of that church service, and eventually, I saw my husband standing big as day in a yellow sweater vest I bought him, texting me with one hand, and holding another woman's hand with the other. I was so stunned ― I realized my body was completely still, and I was holding my breath. It felt as though the world was going to fall apart if I exhaled."
"Just 72 hours later, I participated in a student-led Valentine's Day Q&A panel at the university where I teach as a psychologist with interests in social technologies. Ironically, the students wanted the panel to talk about healthy relationships and love.I didn't experience the panel as painful, but I still have no idea how I got through that event other than the protection provided by being in a state of shock."
A psychologist discovered three days before Valentine's Day 2018 that her husband of 13 years was cheating. Seventy-two hours later she took part in a student-led Valentine's Q&A panel on healthy relationships and love while in shock. Her discovery began with a text about a church visit; online searching revealed the church's actual location and video footage showing her husband holding another woman's hand while texting her. She experienced stunned immobility and held her breath, sensing the world would fall apart. The revelation initiated an excruciatingly painful period marked by mistrust and decisions about tracking and confronting betrayal.
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