"Knowing how life works, I bet she had just finished unpacking her last box when the idea of her moving out occurred to you. I will absolutely get to the emotional part of your dilemma, but let's start with the fact that housing is precarious and expensive in most places, and she just moved. Because you asked her to! So please, please, do not kick her out of the apartment. At least not yet!"
"It's time to slow your roll and own this decision a little bit. Take a beat before breaking up with her. Not as a punishment - trust I wouldn't suggest people live together for that reason - but so that you know what loving someone is like. Long-term relationships regularly involve these periods of questioning and mild dissatisfaction. Sticking together during these times is the sine qua non of love, in my opinion."
The couple had strong initial chemistry and shared niche interests, then moved in together after about a year when she relinquished her prior lease. After two months of cohabitation, increased sniping and reduced sexual frequency led one partner to consider ending the relationship, while housing and financial constraints made moving out impractical. The advised approach is to avoid immediate eviction or breakup, acknowledge responsibility for housing instability, and pause before deciding. Partners should take a beat, own the cohabitation choice, recognize that periodic dissatisfaction is normal, and consider working through the rough period together.
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