"Dear Good Job, My married best friend introduced me, a single and long divorced woman, to one of her single and long divorced male clients, to discuss working together on one of my projects. After knowing him professionally for a year, he asked me out on a date. I was delighted. We hit it off. And we have been seeing each other every week ever since. This does not sit well with my bestie at all!"
"I realized then that she had feelings for him. It's made things awkward. She now calls me every weekend (something she never did before), kind of grumpy, to ask if he's coming to visit, what we're doing, if he/we talk about her, etc. I feel bad that it's bugging her, and very uncomfortable talking to her now; it's like I stole her crush."
A married friend introduced a divorced woman to a divorced male client as a professional contact. After a year of working together the man asked the woman on a date and they began dating weekly. The married friend reacted with visible distress, insisting nothing was wrong with either party while expressing opposition. The friend has since become intrusive, calling frequently to ask about visits and conversations and appearing grumpy. The woman feels guilty and uncomfortable and sought guidance. The response validates the woman's questions, frames the friend's reaction as her problem, and suggests actions to ease the tension.
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