"We were making a registry for gifts. This was important to her, and it was kind of fun to do, but also kind of silly. But when I thought we'd probably had enough, she said that we should keep going because of course we'd rather have someone give us a gift than send cash. I said, well, actually, the opposite right? And she said no, because we can keep the gifts, but the cash will go to her parents to offset wedding costs!"
"I said that's not how it works-any gifts we get are ours. She insisted that all cash gifts we get have to go to her parents since they've been so generous! I said no, the money is ours to start our new life, and she said, right, starting with repaying her parents."
"I don't know much about her parents' financial situation, but of course assumed that they had the money to pay for the wedding they were insisting on paying for! If that isn't actually true, then it's ridiculous that they insisted and that it's become a bigger thing that it needs to be."
A groom is upset after learning his fiancée expects all cash wedding gifts to go toward reimbursing her parents for wedding expenses. Her parents insisted on paying for most of the wedding despite being traditional and old-fashioned. During registry planning, the fiancée stated cash gifts must offset her parents' costs, while physical gifts belong to the couple. The groom believes this arrangement is inappropriate and that wedding gifts should belong to the newlyweds to start their life together. He questions whether the parents could actually afford the wedding they insisted on funding. The couple has been going in circles about this fundamental disagreement regarding gift ownership and financial responsibility.
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