"my Dad's (58) new girlfriend (28) is only two years older than me (F26). I want him to be happy but I can't get over how creepy it is that she was in elementary school the same time I was, that she was still in diapers when he was changing mine. It's just weird. He has had other girlfriends since divorcing my mom, but they were all in their 40s and 50s and felt more age appropriate."
"This is one of those situations where what you feel matters, but not nearly as much as what the two adults in a relationship feel about each other. But your ambivalence isn't uncommon or necessarily irrational either. Two things can be true! These days, so-called "age-gap" relationships get a lot of flak because, as you allude to in your letter, there's a lot of judgment floating around."
A 26-year-old daughter feels uncomfortable that her 58-year-old father's new girlfriend is only two years older than she is and was in elementary school at the same time. The father invites the daughter and her boyfriend to dinner and the daughter avoids meeting the girlfriend out of embarrassment and fear of judgment. Personal feelings of discomfort matter, but consenting adults decide their relationships. Ambivalence about age gaps is common and not necessarily irrational. Age-gap relationships often draw judgment and can involve power imbalances or financial and emotional sway, though such dynamics vary by relationship.
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