"It is definitely common for parenthood to derail sex for at least a period of time. If you watched your wife give birth, that could have something to do with your apathy, as depressing as that is. Also, the burdens of raising an infant can sap people of their will to do ... well, just about everything. This may be an issue that you just need to give some time to in order to see improvement."
"I am experiencing a totally new feeling: sexual emptiness. I feel like since the reproductive act has been completed, there is very little left to be interested in sexually. We've always had an intense but intermittent sex life, with me being the one taking initiative and pushing boundaries and my wife being scarcely available and allowing some of my fantasies to become true."
"Some guys' libidos start to lag in their 40s (or even earlier). Sometimes this seems to be related to hormonal happenings (like decreased testosterone, which could be directly linked to fatherhood, according to some data). If I were you, I'd definitely get tests performed to see if there is anything happening on a biological level. You also express a level of grievance regarding your wife and her participation in your sex life."
Parenthood often reduces sexual desire for a period due to exposure to childbirth and the exhaustion of infant care. Emotional apathy can follow witnessing birth and the relentless demands of a newborn. Distinguish biological causes, such as age-related libido decline or decreased testosterone possibly linked to fatherhood, from relationship dynamics and resentment about partner availability. Obtain medical testing to check hormonal or other biological contributors. Pursue counseling or sex therapy to address grievances, improve communication, and explore new approaches to intimacy while allowing time for recovery.
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