""Normalcy?" I mean, I've never been to a house wallpapered in vulvas before, and it seems like you haven't either. I don't believe that most of us have. I would say this is unusual but not necessarily a dealbreaker. I'm not so quick to judge because I've seen what gay men put on their walls and it can sometimes be very penis-forward. I mean, The Birdcage has an extended bit about how the central couple loves to dress their home in dick."
"Regarding your guy, in the worst case scenario, his decor could signal an objectification/fetishization of a single part that will leave the rest of the person it's attached to ignored. Perhaps for him, the hole trumps the whole. That can be fine if you're into it, but most people like to be appreciated for more than just their genitals. On the other hand, maybe he's a kind, compassionate person who truly loves women and especially their vulvas. If he's that into pussy, he might be really good with it."
Home decor featuring explicit images of vulvas is uncommon but not automatically a dealbreaker. Such decor can indicate a fetishization that reduces a partner to body parts, which may be problematic for people who want to be appreciated as whole persons. Similar explicit decoration appears in other communities and does not always signal harmful intent. Strong interest in genitalia can correlate with sexual skill and enthusiasm for pleasing partners. Observing how the person treats partners, asking direct questions about motives, and assessing mutual comfort and boundaries can clarify whether the decor reflects a compatible preference or a red flag.
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