"In New York, sex-positive communities have evolved into something more organized than outsiders tend to imagine. Not just parties, but curated ecosystems built on vetting, trust, and a shared commitment to consent. Alain Rostain, a Yale-trained computer scientist and longtime consultant, spent much of his life drawn to power, structure, and desire. Eventually, he applied the same thinking he used in professional settings to the messiest arena of all: intimacy."
"The household was comfortable, adult, and rarely quiet in an emotional sense, even if it was often socially contained. In truth, we didn't have many visitors. My mother was reserved, even a bit antisocial, which was a disappointment to my father. Still, the apartment never felt fully private. There was a constant awareness of being observed-by neighbors, by the city itself, by the closeness of other lives pressed up against ours. New York felt intimate and exposing at the same time."
A Yale-trained computer scientist and longtime consultant brought analytical, structural thinking to intimate life, moving from organizing fetish after-parties to founding Top Floor. Top Floor operates as a curated, invite-only erotic ecosystem emphasizing vetting, trust, strict boundaries, consent, and improvisational principles to preserve a fragile communal vibe. The project treated intimacy as a managed environment rather than casual nightlife, prioritizing safety and accountability. After leaving in 2016, the founder returned with a renewed goal to combine connection, erotic honesty, and sustained accountability to create a durable community model.
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