"When I got to the US, the heady joy of marital bliss was soon eclipsed by a crisis of identity. While I was glad to have found the man of my dreams à la Bollywood, I felt bitter about being a " trailing spouse," moving to a new country for love, at the cost of professional stability. The busy editor who led a team of reporters in Mumbai quicklybecame an alter ego from a past life."
"I felt like I was having a breakdown in slow motion As a well-traveled Anglophone, I felt no culture shock when I arrived in America, with the exception of the "do-it-yourself" culture common to the Western world. I was a Bombay brat who always had house help to cook and clean for me. In the US, I tortured my gut bacteria with junk food for months before grudgingly learning my way around the kitchen."
She met her husband on a dating app in 2021 when he visited Mumbai, beginning a yearlong long-distance relationship between the US and India. They married in April 2022 in Mumbai. Six months later she moved to Sunnyvale on an H-4 dependent visa while her husband worked in tech on an H-1B. She left her role as managing editor at an online business publication and lost her professional stability. Loneliness and a prolonged identity crisis followed, feeling like a trailing spouse and estranged from her former editorial life. She adapted to do-it-yourself daily tasks and learned to cook.
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