""Sex jealousy" is a phrase people sometimes use to describe the same frustration you're writing about here, yes. We could also call this phenomenon fornication FOMO, but the specific detail of sexuality is a distraction to some extent. You're looking at what other people are doing, focusing on the benefits you perceive they're getting, and comparing those to either the reality of your life or a summary of what you have that is somewhat biased toward focusing on the downsides."
"Your sex life is good but average. Can you turn your energy toward increasing your connection with your partner, whether that's introducing variation back into your sexual relationship or deepening emotional intimacy? Are there areas of your life outside of sexuality where you could meet your desire for excitement, novelty, anticipation, or fun, like a hobby? Is there something about missing feelings of desire from strangers that points to a disconnect in your relationship, or a lack of deserved"
Sex jealousy, or sexual FOMO, arises when one compares a committed relationship to friends' casual sexual experiences and focuses on perceived benefits. Comparison bias can make ordinary relationship sex feel unsatisfying. Energy can be redirected toward increasing connection with a partner through variety, deeper emotional intimacy, or improved communication about needs. Novelty and anticipation can be pursued outside sexual life via hobbies or new activities. The yearning for desire from strangers may indicate unmet needs or a disconnect in the relationship. Options include honest conversations, exploring consensual nonmonogamy if appropriate, and cultivating gratitude and realistic expectations.
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