"Dear Prudence is Slate's advice column. Submit questions here. Dear Prudence, I just found out something horrible about my friend. Her dad is her mom's son. That is, she is a product of incest. She casually mentioned it one day when we were at book club. Do I break off her friendship? She is lovely and has kids of her own with a lovely man, whom my husband and I are friends with. -Not Loving the Lineage"
"You're acting as if she committed the incest. She didn't do anything, so why would you cut her off? But actually, if you're feeling this level of judgment and disgust toward her, unreasonable as it may be, it might be best to take a step back from the relationship. She's been through enough and doesn't need fries who think she's awful because of something totally outside of her control."
A friend revealed she was conceived through incest, prompting discomfort and a question about whether to end the friendship. The advised response is that the friend bears no responsibility for her origins and does not deserve abandonment or condemnation. If the revelation provokes persistent judgment and disgust, creating distance may be healthier than outright rejection. A separate correspondent reports that, after a mother-in-law's death, the father-in-law and other relatives have become distant and unresponsive to calls about grandchildren, causing emotional strain and uncertainty about how to proceed without confrontation.
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