"You must change your thinking. Be happy that your daughter is becoming close to her husband's family. It could be different. Work hard to shift your jealous feelings to gratitude for her mother-in-law's presence. Separately, establish regular times for calls with your daughter weekly, if possible where you check in. You can let her know you miss her, but resist guilting her."
"However, what has been even more difficult is how my daughter has started becoming extremely close with his family especially his mom. I'm glad that she's getting along with his family, but I hate to admit that I am jealous. She goes to family dinners at her in-laws' house almost every week, spends weekends with them and talks about how helpful and supportive they've been in her new married life."
An Ohio mother feels replaced and hurt after her married daughter moved to New Jersey and formed a close bond with her husband's family, especially the mother-in-law. The mother's visits are rare and phone contact is sporadic, producing jealousy and sadness while she wants to avoid guilt or appearing needy. The recommended approach is to change perspective by cultivating gratitude for the daughter's supportive in-laws and to arrange regular weekly check-in calls that acknowledge missing the daughter without applying guilt. A separate correspondent reports difficulty saying no when friends expect free consulting work and resist paying for professional services.
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