"The only issue is that while we both live in New York City, he lives in Brooklyn and I live in Washington Heights (Manhattan), and the trip is usually over an hour sometimes longer if the trains are delayed or rerouted, which happens more often than I'd like. We both have demanding work schedules, so coordinating time together can be tricky, and it feels like one of us is always sacrificing sleep or rearranging our routine just to travel across the city."
"It's all about perspective. Yes, it takes a big effort for you two to be together. The same is true for people who live across states, countries and oceans. While you may lose out on spontaneity, what you can gain from continuing to choose each other is a deepening of your relationship and figuring out if the effort is worth it. It may not sound like fun, but consider creating a schedule for when you will see each other."
Two partners live in different NYC boroughs, creating commutes often over an hour with frequent train delays. Both have demanding work schedules that make coordinating time difficult, causing sleep loss and routine disruptions. The distance turns moments into logistical challenges and reduces spontaneity. Maintaining the relationship requires deliberate effort, similar to long-distance relationships across states or countries. Scheduling regular shared time, without planning activities, helps preserve connection. Continued mutual choice can deepen the relationship. Partners should consider whether to move closer, live together, or plan long-term commitment if the effort proves worthwhile.
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