"My friend has always made comments about my weight, saying that I'm too skinny and that I should eat more. At first, I tried to laugh it off or change the subject, but over time, it started to really bother me. I have felt self-conscious and frustrated, and I didn't know how to tell her how hurtful her remarks were."
"Lashing out at her didn't work because it simply hurt her without giving her cause for self-reflection. You need to talk to her. You can apologize for talking about her weight and admit that you constantly feel hurt by how she speaks about yours. Tell her it makes you feel uncomfortable and judged. Chances are, she has no clue. People often think it's fair game to talk about thin people but out of bounds to talk about overweight people."
A person describes repeated hurt from a friend’s comments about being too skinny and being told to eat more. The person eventually snapped, told the friend to eat less, and now feels guilty while the friend is angry. The person has attempted to explain feelings but feels misunderstood and worries about damaging the friendship. Advice recommends apologizing for the retaliatory comment, clearly expressing ongoing hurt, asking the friend to stop making body remarks, and reinforcing boundaries by reminding her whenever she slips up. The advice notes that negative comments about any body size are not acceptable.
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