"She then said she was amazed that I am still married to him, given that I have nothing good to say about him at all. I don't mean to talk about him badly, but he is not nice to me, and I'm fed up. At the same time, I cannot afford to leave him. We barely have enough money together to pay our bills, and we are close to retirement age. I don't know how I would survive if I left him now."
"Include him in that search for joy. What kind words can you offer him? What genuine compliment can you offer him? What expression of gratitude can you include him in? Be vigilant about choosing to recognize and nurture joy in your life. Catch yourself before complaints come spewing out of your mouth. Practice expressing gratitude, and watch to see if your relationship softens at all."
One person reports frequent complaints about a husband who is unkind, combined with financial dependence and concern about approaching retirement, and asks how to stop constant complaining. Advice recommends deciding to be happy, finding a daily source of joy, and including the husband in that search by offering kind words, genuine compliments, and expressions of gratitude. The advice also urges vigilance to catch complaints before they spill out and to practice gratitude to see if the relationship softens. Another person describes friends in New York City whose extreme frugality and constant price complaints make outings uncomfortable and guilt-inducing when ordering normal items.
Read at www.mercurynews.com
Unable to calculate read time
Collection
[
|
...
]