Harriette Cole: I should've put my foot down long ago. Is it time for divorce?
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Harriette Cole: I should've put my foot down long ago. Is it time for divorce?
"When my husband and I first got married, we started off in Georgia. He wanted to go to medical school and was accepted to a school in Virginia. At this point, we already had our first child, but I wanted him to have the opportunity to achieve his dream, so I stayed in Georgia, and he went to Virginia. Along his med school journey, we got pregnant twice more. Managing a long-distance relationship and three children was hard on me, both mentally and financially."
"It is time for a serious conversation with him about his intentions. Have you ever asserted yourself and asked him to work with you to figure out your life together? Since you are considering divorce, you may also want to talk to an attorney before you confront your husband. Find out your rights regarding whatever resources he has and what military benefits you may receive. If you end up leaving him, you want to make sure that you and your children are well provided for."
A wife endured nearly ten years of unilateral relocations while her husband pursued medical school, residency, and military service, leaving her to manage three children, finances, and emotional strain. She joined him for residency but continues to face moves without inclusion in major decisions. She fears single parenthood and wonders whether divorce is necessary. The advised actions include initiating a serious conversation about his intentions and asserting her role in joint decision-making. She should consult an attorney beforehand to learn her legal rights and available military benefits. She must ensure financial and caregiving stability for herself and her children before deciding.
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