"I'm a 32-year-old genderfluid person trying to navigate dating, kink, and weird feelings. My spouse and I are polyamorous/ethically non-monogamous as of last year, but we started dating when we were 20 and were monogamous for most of that time. I went into this polyamory situation knowing I was looking for a low-key friends-with-benefits situation."
A genderfluid person in an ethically non-monogamous relationship seeks low-key friends-with-benefits but finds hookups intimidating and prefers gradual exploration. They describe wanting sex and a play partner, yet partners on Feeld often treat hangouts as dates, use romantic language, and escalate flirting. Past experiences included a partner who acted like a romantic relationship while insisting it was only friends with sex, leading to a breakup that felt emotionally like romance. The person worries they may be leading others on because they enjoy flirting and friendship but do not want dating. They seek guidance on how to define flirting as friends and clarify FWB versus dating expectations.
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