"Beware the practice of "winter coating," when an ex wants to get back together with you just to get them through the coldest and potentially the loneliest part of the year. And come pring, your ex then abruptly sheds you as if you were just some kind of winter coat. It's a variation of the "cuffing" that occurs during "cuffing season," which spans October through March. "Cuffing" is short for handcuffing. "Cuffing season" is so named because many people are simply looking for someone to handcuff themselves to in order to not be alone during the time of year that may be tough for singles, when the days are cold, the nights are long, and the holidays keep coming."
"The main difference with winter coating is that one or more exes may be looking to cuff themselves to someone oh so familiar-you. After all, you are a known quantity. Your ex was presumably able to win you over before, so you may seem attainable. In fact, you could end up serving as a go-to back-up plan for each and every cuffing season for that ex. Sounds great, right? Who doesn't want to constantly be someone's temporary back-up plan?"
Winter coating describes exes who reconnect only to get through the coldest, loneliest months and then abandon the relationship when warmer weather returns. The phenomenon is a variation of cuffing that typically occurs during cuffing season from October through March. Exes pursue familiar partners because they are known, attainable, and convenient backup options. Repeated winter coating can leave someone feeling like a seasonal accessory or backup plan. Some people mutually accept temporary arrangements for the season, but pursuing clarity and frank conversations about intentions and expectations can reduce the risk of feeling used or heartbroken.
Read at Psychology Today
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