A 5ft 4in man reports consistent rejection on dating apps when he reveals his height. Women often list 'looking for someone tall' and respond by saying no or blocking upon learning his height. Connections sometimes change after he shares his height, harming his self-confidence and making him feel undateable. He seeks casual dating now and a committed relationship later, but avoids bars and clubs and relies on apps where height is emphasized. He wants to delete apps but returns because most people use them. A commentator notes dating apps like Tinder have introduced height filters and that many users list height with dismissive comments, yet height should not be the only partner criterion.
I'm a 5ft 4in guy and never had a problem with my height until it came to dating apps. I see on women's profiles all the time that they are looking for someone tall, and when I tell them my height, they either say no or just block me. It's frustrating and disheartening, to be honest, and makes me feel rejected every time.
Sometimes I connect with someone, and things seem to be going well but then when they ask for my height, I can tell that the vibe has changed. It has impacted my self-confidence so much and makes me feel like my height makes me undateable. I'd love to just have some fun and date casually, but I would like a proper boyfriend/girlfriend relationship in the future.
Dr West replies: I couldn't believe the news a few months back that dating apps like Tinder are introducing a height feature to filter matches by. I do often see people on dating sites with their height listed and a little 'because apparently that matters' beside it. This shows that it is a common thing, but that shouldn't be the only criteria in finding a partner.
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