"Perhaps something like There's a new name, and a new family arrangement, but the warm wishes are the same. Or you could lean into a seasonal motif: This holiday, we're moving into a new season of life, so you'll see a different name on the return address but know that my love for you lasts year-round. Or funny: Is it regifting when Santa brings you your maiden name for Christmas?"
"There's also a simple solution of taking a photo of yourself with your kids and cat, signing it with your maiden name, and letting people infer or speak to you directly if they want more information. There are some who advise against announcing divorces in holiday greetings because divorce can be sad. However, it's your card and your life and you don't have to hide it."
"I am separated from my husband of 25 years, and while it's mostly amicable, I feel disingenuous including him on the card this year. Our divorce will be final less than a month after Christmas. I am also going back to my maiden name so I thought it might be a good way to announce that as well. We share four children (and a cat) whom I'd like to include."
A separated person can exclude a spouse from a holiday card and use the card to announce a forthcoming return to a maiden name. Options include a straightforward line about a new name and family arrangement or a seasonal metaphor about moving into a new season of life. Humor can be used, for example asking if Santa is regifting a maiden name, followed by sincere reassurance that everyone is happy and healthy. A simple approach is a photo of the sender with the children and pet, signed with the maiden name. Holiday cards can reflect love, loss, and life changes, and disclosure is optional.
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