"For as long as people have been looking for love, many have been convinced that they know exactly what it looks like. We might talk about having a "type": someone with certain traits, habits, beliefs, or quirks that we assume will add up to a successful match. But that certainty is often an illusion. Studies suggest that what people say they want in a partner rarely predicts whom they actually fall for"
"Chemistry, timing, shared experiences, and the slow work of falling in love with someone tend to matter far more than the traits that some people screen for on a dating-app profile. On Love and Choice Most People Don't Have a 'Type' By Olga Khazan Many daters have a list of traits they're looking for in a partner-but can be perfectly happy with someone who has few of them."
Many people believe they have a defined 'type', but declared preferences rarely determine who they fall for or form lasting relationships. Research finds chemistry, timing, shared experiences, and the gradual deepening of affection play larger roles than screening for traits on dating-app profiles. Recurring attraction to a familiar 'type' can stem from psychological comfort rather than a unique connection. Common dating strategies that prioritize similarity or checklists often mislead people seeking romance. Other perspectives and examples provide further insight into why emphasizing finding the 'right kind' of person can be misleading.
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