"There is no need, however, to compare yourself to your husband and kids. It takes a while to find the right groups of friends who share your values and interests. It is wonderful, though, that you have at least two women with whom you can spend time. Perhaps you can strengthen those relationships by inviting them to activities that you would all enjoy. People get closer when they engage in mutually enjoyable activities."
"Despite having friends in New York City, where we lived for many years, I can't seem to find my group here in the suburbs. It feels very cliquey to me here. I get invited to a lunch date here and there, but it seems to end. I hear about these women going on trips together and to the city, and they never invite me. I also see their group pictures on Instagram."
Making friends as an adult often proves difficult, particularly after a move. Cliques in new communities can exclude newcomers and cause feelings of rejection. Comparing personal social progress to that of spouses or children exacerbates loneliness. Strengthening smaller existing connections by inviting people to mutually enjoyable activities encourages closeness. Joining clubs and groups that align with values and interests increases the chance of finding compatible friends. Avoid efforts to force entry into established cliques; instead focus on communities where inclusion is mutual. Patience, consistent initiatives, and choosing environments where one feels wanted foster lasting adult friendships.
Read at Psychology Today
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