"Most of us were never taught how to choose a life partner. We feel attraction and assume that will be enough. Maybe we love someone and think that love is all we need for a successful long-term relationship or marriage. Many of us end up learning by trial and error without a solid framework to guide us. For most people, the relationship patterns we witnessed between our parents and the other people close to us play a huge role in who we choose."
"For others, those early templates lead to relationships that feel familiar, but aren't necessarily healthy or satisfying. Back in my dating days, I was fortunate to be introduced to a simple four-criteria formula for choosing a life partner."
Many people were never taught how to choose a life partner and often assume attraction or love alone will suffice for a lasting relationship. Early relationship patterns observed between parents and other close people strongly influence partner selection, producing healthy templates for some and familiar but unhealthy dynamics for others. A four-criteria formula attributed to Juli Vinik holds that all four criteria must be met for a successful long-term match. Applying the formula requires patience, willingness to date or be single while waiting, resistance to cultural pressure to settle, and coping with doubt when a partner meets only three criteria.
Read at Psychology Today
Unable to calculate read time
Collection
[
|
...
]