"A 2014 study highlights just how central effort is to romantic fulfillment. Researchers drew on data from 795 married couples. They discovered that each partner's perceptions of their own effort and that of their partner correlated directly with their marital quality, and even with their susceptibility to divorce. Surprisingly, one partner's effort wasn't merely self-contained; it directly affected the other's satisfaction levels."
"In a laboratory study involving 72 participants, researchers employed a cold pressor task, in which participants immersed their hand in nearly freezing water, and discovered that individuals tolerated much greater pain for their partner than for a friend or under other circumstances. This indicates sacrifice in love does not have to be transactional. Many individuals make sacrifices even if nothing is offered in return."
Overgivers habitually give more than is healthy, offering time, emotional energy, presence, concern, forgiveness and repeated chances at the expense of boundaries. Research with 795 married couples shows each partner's perceived effort—self and partner—directly correlates with marital quality and divorce susceptibility, and one partner's effort affects the other's satisfaction. Experimental work finds people tolerate greater pain for romantic partners, indicating sacrifices often occur without expected reciprocity. Persistent one-sided sacrifice produces cumulative emotional cost, leading to resentment and imbalance. Recognizing resentment, setting boundaries, and seeking mutual effort are essential to restore relationship health.
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