The Key to Accepting Children for Who They Are
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The Key to Accepting Children for Who They Are
"I quickly realized that parents accepting their children for who they are often posed a significant challenge, especially when children displayed behaviors that parents experienced as problematic or not aligning with their values. This realization was reinforced tenfold when I became a father several years later. Not only did I become increasingly aware of the obstacles to accepting our children, but I also came to appreciate the importance of parental acceptance as a foundation of a child's emotional development and well-being."
"Acceptance is rooted in unconditional love-caring for our children regardless of their behavior or whether their choices match our expectations. Acceptance should not be confused with permissiveness or allowing children to do whatever they want. Acceptance does not imply that we fail to discipline our children or teach them to be responsible. Acceptance and effective discipline support each other, especially when we recognize that discipline involves teaching, not humiliation or intimidation."
Parents often hold expectations shaped by their own childhoods, and many children fail to fulfill those dreams, triggering parental disappointment and frustration. Acceptance requires unconditional love and caring regardless of a child’s behavior or whether choices match parental expectations. Acceptance differs from permissiveness and does not mean avoiding discipline. Effective discipline emphasizes teaching responsibility rather than humiliation or intimidation. Discipline and acceptance support each other and create a safe environment where children can develop self-discipline. Adopting a goodness-of-fit approach that adjusts parental expectations to match a child's temperament improves parent-child relationships and supports healthier emotional development and well-being.
Read at Psychology Today
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