"Her lead teacher ran an in-home daycare for 20 years before moving to this center, and she has what we consider to be an old-school approach. She places what we feel are unrealistic expectations on toddlers. Dear Lesson, Our daughter is very verbal and can clearly express what she needs and wants and how she feels. She's also incredibly sweet and easily picks up on others' emotions."
"While we totally agree that this is behavior we need to quell, it is neither frequent nor developmentally abnormal behavior. But because our daughter speaks in full sentences, her teacher expects her to exercise impulse control at 2, which she isn't demanding of other children. She also uses passive aggression ("Well, if no one is going to clean up, I guess we won't go outside") and icky blame ("She made me sad today because she didn't listen when I asked her to clean up")."
"All in all, we don't like her approach. But we like the program overall, and Daisy won't be in that class forever. Besides, to be frank, we can't afford any of the other programs in town. How can we address these unrealistic and kind of toxic behaviors with the teacher (or the program director) in a way that won't result in our daughter being treated poorly because the teacher is miffed at us?"
A two-year-old named Daisy attends a daycare where the lead teacher, formerly an in-home provider, applies an old-school approach and places strict expectations on toddlers. Because Daisy is verbal, the teacher requires her to always use words, never take toys, and to exhibit impulse control beyond typical two-year-old development. The teacher does not hold the same standards for less-verbal classmates and sometimes uses passive-aggressive remarks and blame toward children. The family likes the program overall but cannot afford alternatives and worries that confronting the teacher could lead to poor treatment of their child.
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