"Assuming that your spouse is the children's other parent, this question should be worked through with them. From one angle, the question is, "How much do I tell my children about my history?" From other angles, though, we're talking about how much children should know about sexuality, sexual labor, and-if I'm reading between the lines correctly-actions we might have some complex feelings about at the time or later in life. Those are all big parenting questions, and should therefore be decided together."
"How likely your children are to find out is a big factor here. If you and your spouse are the only people in your town who know about your college job, there were never any photos or videos of you at work, and anyone in your extended family who is aware can be trusted not to let anything slip, you probably do have the option to keep your kids from knowing."
Work through the decision about disclosing past stripping together with the children's other parent. Consider how much children should know about sexuality, sexual labor, and past actions that may provoke complex feelings now or later. Evaluate how likely the children are to find out: if knowledge is limited to you and trustworthy relatives and there are no photos or videos, keeping it private may be possible. If past work made you publicly visible through advertising, performing, or interviews that remain online, prefer sitting the children down and sharing in a developmentally appropriate way. Plan how to respond to indirect questions and whether to acknowledge firsthand experience.
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