"Your husband has the right idea. If you know having the twins over is going to lead to property damage, resentment, and stress, you shouldn't have them over. This is a much better plan than hosting and spending the whole time resenting your sister and brother-in-law for failing to supervise their kids. The last thing you want is to put yourself in a situation in which you're micromanaging someone else's parenting."
"So here's a script: "We've talked about it and we've realized our home is not child-friendly. [What you really mean is that it's not child-friendly for totally unsupervised, high-energy, chaotic children, but you don't have to say that explicitly.] So, can someone else step in to host? We'll still bring all the"
Hosts are justified in refusing to invite their sister's unsupervised, high-energy five-year-old twins due to recurring property damage, stains, and disruptive behavior. The twins' parents refuse to supervise or discipline them when visiting other people's homes and expect others to childproof. Hosting under those conditions would force micromanaging someone else's parenting, breed resentment, and damage family relationships. The recommended action is to decline having the twins over, prioritize protecting the home and relationships, and offer a polite script asking another family member to host while still contributing food or help.
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