""I have absolutely no idea why more people don't just stop at one," she writes. "I wasn't always one and done. I originally wanted 3-4 kids, but actually having my first child made me OAD. I cannot imagine having any more children; being a parent is SO hard.""
""Don't get me wrong, I love my kid to death, but the newborn/infant stage alone is Hell on earth," she continues. "It's not even the lack of sleep that's the worst of it- it's the constant screaming if i'm not holding them, the cluster feeding and comfort nursing that never got better, and being worried that every single thing Im doing (or not doing) is gonna mess them up for life. My parents fed me these lies that my child would be a good sleeper because I slept great since birth. Lies lies lies, my child is ALLERGIC to sleeping.""
""My husband also didn't make post-partum easy for me," she explains. "The house fell apart and I can't eat meals by myself unless someone other than him is here. I thought mothers were full of shit when they talked about the showering situation; I am lucky to get to shower as infrequently as I get to. I need to be able to have a tidy space for my mental health. I think even if he was any different than he is, I still wouldn't want another baby; the mess will only get wo"
A new parent describes profound exhaustion, persistent infant sleep difficulties, and overwhelming feeding and soothing demands during the newborn stage. The parent reports constant crying unless held, cluster feeding and comfort nursing that did not improve, and anxiety that every action may harm the child's development. Insufficient partner support contributed to household breakdown, skipped meals, and inability to maintain personal hygiene or a tidy environment. The parent expresses love for the child but declares a decision to remain one-child due to the intensity of newborn caregiving, the household strain, and the expectation that these burdens would only increase with another child.
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