Mentalizing: When the Bad Happens to Us
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Mentalizing: When the Bad Happens to Us
"Bad moments happen. They can offset everything from emotional stability to creating serious psychological and behavioral dysregulation to jeopardizing ongoing mental health and safety. Many years ago, American sociologist William Isaac Thomas brought about the idea known as Thomas Theorem. Breaking it down, reality is malleable in its initial stages, but hard-set in its consequences. So why am I using this sociological term here? Because I think it captures an essential formula."
"Our brain interprets threatening things through a hard-line "contextual" lens. Context here involves not just the discrepant event of something, but the locked-in sensory focus we apply to it. Context shapes threat perception and can eclipse rational evaluation (Maren et al., 2013). Relative to Thomas Theorem, our immediate reactions to unexpected negative situations (fender-bender, bad news, argument, physical or emotional pain-triggering events) may involve fast, reflexive, millisecond interpretations accompanied by emotionally reactive decisions (determinations) that follow, which can alter our world quickly."
"These reflexive judgments can even lead to context-polarization, persecutory introjects in thinking, and, even fatalities. As well, when people immediately interpret negative events, they may move to self-imposed certainties like "I'm unlovable," "I have to retaliate," "I know I'm hated," and more. This "certitude" is where Thomas Theorem becomes painfully relevant. When the mind defines the moment as certain, we invoke outcomes in alignment."
Bad moments can destabilize emotional balance and produce serious psychological and behavioral dysregulation that jeopardizes mental health and safety. Thomas Theorem frames reality as malleable early but hardening in consequence, making initial interpretations consequential. The brain uses a hard-line contextual lens and locked-in sensory focus to interpret threat, which can eclipse rational evaluation and produce millisecond, reflexive determinations. Such reflexive judgments can polarize context, create persecutory introjects, and lead to self-imposed certitudes like "I'm unlovable" or "I have to retaliate," which then shape outcomes. Mentalizing restores mental flexibility and containment, empowering altered responses and changing trajectories.
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