I have lost sensation in my penis - and long to orgasm with a partner

"You are smart and self-aware sexually, but you are failing to truly experience pleasure because you are now (understandably) goal-oriented and fearful. Many people subscribe to the idea there should be one particular pattern to lovemaking usually the one that starts with a bit of foreplay and proceeds to the main event of orgasm. Stop thinking like this. Instead, focus on pure pleasure rather than on achieving a climax."

"Consider the possibility that foreplay is overall a more erotic and pleasurable main event and that orgasmic ecstasy is a very brief, not altogether necessary, exclamation mark at the end. An enormous amount of prolonged pleasure awaits you and your partner if you can approach sexual encounters in this way and be honest about what works for you and what doesn't."

Prioritize sustained sensory pleasure, varied stimulation, and clear partner communication instead of focusing exclusively on reaching orgasm. Diminished penile sensation from multifocal motor neuropathy and condoms can lengthen the time to climax and reduce tactile feedback. Shift emphasis toward prolonged foreplay, alternative erogenous zones, non-penetrative activities, and shared erotic experiences that do not require orgasm as the endpoint. Be candid with partners about protection preferences and sensation limits, experiment with condom types or desensitizing factors, explore medical evaluation and pelvic/sexual therapy, and cultivate presence to reduce performance anxiety and fear. Practice masturbation techniques that replicate partnered sensations and allow partners to learn tailored stimulation.

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