"I was able to admit to myself for the first time that I knew I did not ever want to have kids - at least not in any traditional biological sense. If I ever changed my mind about mothering, well, there are millions of kids in the world needing homes. So, I went and talked to the only person I felt might really understand my need to not mother: my mother."
"My mom did something very important for me as I was growing up: She'd told me about some of her experiences in the sex realm, helped me to understand what I was feeling when these experiences started to arise for me, and answered all my questions about how this weird and impactful part of life worked. Because of this open channel of communication, I knew that my grandmother had flown my mom to Japan in the '60s for an abortion when she was 18,"
"And just as I'd hoped she would, my mom helped me. She offered to take me to get an intrauterine device. I said I'd prefer to just have my tubes tied and be done with it, having already heard my fair share of IUD health horror stories (including hers). And instead of telling me to "just wait and see" or that I would "probably change my mind" like so many other people have, she called around and got me into an abortion clinic,"
A woman realized she did not want biological children and considered adoption for any future change of heart. She sought out her mother to discuss her decision and received understanding and practical support. Her mother had previously shared candid sexual and reproductive experiences, creating an open channel of communication that included knowledge of a past abortion. The mother helped arrange contraception options and ultimately aided access to a clinic willing to perform a tubal ligation, overcoming common medical reluctance to sterilize young childless women.
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