"Sometimes, if you want something to happen, you have to make it happen. Obviously, you can't control people. They might flake, they might ghost, they might stand you up. But you've been on dates and ... nothing. Maybe the vibe just wasn't there, but maybe it would have been if you had taken the initiative. If you didn't direct the conversation toward sex at any point, suggest you might be interested in that person and/or flat-out proposition them, well, you may have missed opportunities."
"I'm a college student, decently attractive (physically fit, though more "cute" than hot), but have never had sex before. Guys and girls have shown interest, I've gone on my fair share of dates, and even had a boyfriend for a few months-but nothing ever led to anything more physical. (To be fair, my boyfriend was quite religious, and I never pushed for anything he wasn't comfortable with.) I've tried Tinder, but after eight cancellations I took a break."
A 21-year-old college student feels inexperienced despite attracting interest from both men and women, past dating, and a brief religiously conservative relationship. Dating apps produced cancellations and dead-end dates. The core advice is to take initiative when opportunities arise because others may flake or ghost and many missed chances result from not signaling interest. Directing conversation toward sex, suggesting attraction, or outright propositioning can change outcomes. Shyness can prevent desired experiences, so showing reciprocal interest and slipping in innuendo or clearer signals may lead to the exploratory hookups sought.
Read at Slate Magazine
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