"I had a close male friend who is openly gay (I am non-binary, assigned female at birth). We had a lot in common, became close really quickly, and started spending a lot of time together. Slowly, I realized I was falling for him, and one evening after a party, I confessed. On the spot, he took it really well. He said his feelings are entirely platonic and that he likes me as a person."
"First, you are absolutely allowed to have a crush on a gay man. Feelings don't check someone's government-issued ID before they show up, and they don't pause to sort the world into pink or blue. You developed feelings for someone you were close to. That's human, and there are certainly no rules around what's "appropriate" when it comes to physical and emotional attraction. If you like someone, you like them. Point blank."
A non-binary person developed romantic feelings for a close, openly gay male friend and confessed, and the friend responded that his feelings were entirely platonic. The friend later asked for a break, needed space, and then ceased contact, which led to guilt, self-blame, and concern about having crossed a line. Having a crush on a gay man is allowed; feelings do not obey identity labels and are not inherently inappropriate. Unreciprocated attraction is a common human experience and does not indicate wrongdoing. The friend’s need for distance likely reflects his boundaries and feelings rather than the crusher’s identity.
Read at Queerty
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