"When I got to the pool, I did have the "how do you sit in a lounge chair naked without looking or feeling like you're at the gynecologist" conversation with myself. But I soon squared that away by stretching my legs out along the length of the chair and crossing one over the other. I felt strangely comfortable. That feeling of not just calm but contentedness never left me while I was at the resort."
"The other guests and the staff at the resort were friendly and I was constantly asked my name and what brought me there. When I told people I was both a lesbian and in a monogamous relationship, they not only listened ― they heard me. One couple offered to take me under their wing, show me around and introduce me to their friends."
"They also advised me to steer clear of the hot tub at night. It was another place where one's presence, in and of itself, could be read as a statement of at least interest. Although the resort didn't specifically mention consent or rules, they assured me that I would always feel safe and comfortable and that if at any point I didn't, all I had to do was let someone know."
A guest felt calm and contented at a resort where staff and other guests were friendly and attentive. Guests frequently asked her name and reasons for visiting, and listened when she said she was a lesbian in a monogamous relationship. A couple offered social support, introductions, and guidance about resort norms. They identified the playroom, Thursday foam parties, and the hot tub at night as places where mere presence could be read as interest in sexual activity. Staff assured that safety would be maintained and that anyone feeling uncomfortable could report it, though the guest never needed to seek help.
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