"When I'm dating someone, I don't care what you identify as or what you call yourself, as long as you're happy being who you are. I think they're just labels. It's not a shameful thing or like, they're mean to me. It's like, these are not my men in terms of attraction."
"I never really understood it until now. It's almost like they don't want me here. Like I'm not really in it here because I'm not presenting as a man. I'm not presenting in that way. Now, if I'm just going to have a kiki, sure. But these are not the men that are interested in me in that capacity."
"I do that when I go to the straight rooms. It has always been that way, but now it's even more so now that I definitely present in more of a feminine way because also it's like my energy is that."
EJ Johnson discusses their dating preferences and experiences in LGBTQ+ spaces. They clarify that they don't attract gay men and aren't attracted to them, emphasizing that labels matter less than individual compatibility and happiness. Johnson notes they don't frequent gay clubs or events because the men present there don't align with their attraction patterns. They reflect on realizing that gay spaces may not be designed for people presenting femininely like themselves. Johnson distinguishes between experiencing exclusion and simply recognizing that gay venues attract different demographics. They find romantic connections in straight spaces instead, attributing this partly to their increasingly feminine presentation and energy.
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