My husband and I (both men in our early 30s) got married very quickly for a variety of reasons. This included but was not limited to: our careers, pissing off his homophobic brother by staging an elaborate proposal at his event, and playing emotional chicken with each other to see if either of us would back down. We didn't, and all of a sudden, I had a husband I had only known for six months. I thought, straight people do it all the time, how hard can it be?
People with limited experience with the kink community often imagine some pretty extreme caricatures when they hear phrases like "BDSM," "Daddy Dom/good girl," and "fisting." It’s inevitable, given that the most easily discovered depictions are pretty extreme.