#consent

#consent

In a stunning new photobook, La Isla, Argentinian photographer Matu Buiatti invites us into a profound exploration of intimacy, trust, and the human body, framed through the lens of analogue photography. This 18-month project transcends mere image-making; it is a beautifully crafted dialogue about human connection, where the photograph emerges not as a starting point but as the culmination of shared experiences.

My husband and I (both men) have been together and happily monogamous for 15 years. We are both turning 40 this year. Our birthdays are within a couple of weeks of each other, so if we want to do something bigger than a nice dinner out, we'll usually combine the celebrations into one. When my husband asked what I'd like to do for our 40th, I had an answer: I'd like to have a threesome.

What if, instead of relying on the consumption of media, you relied on your imagination and your memories? You could reminisce about particularly enjoyable sex you've previously had with your wife, fantasize about sex you might have with her in the future, and use embodiment and mindfulness skills (specifically, the ones that focus on being present in the moment and noticing all the details) to soak up the experiences of the weekly-or-so sex you do get to have with your wife (and bank that for future wanking).

When we first became involved, she even joked that she didn't want me getting mad when it was time for her to visit her friend on girls' trips. A threesome with a bisexual woman has always been my fantasy. She even gave me permission to go online and find a unicorn for us. But when I set up a meeting, she didn't seem to want to follow through with it, so I stopped looking.

"And I never say no"We need to have a serious talk about the way "AI companion" apps not only prey on the vulnerable, but are priming their users to ignore consent and to conflate love with control.We need AI regulations across so many sectors, but this area is particularly horrifying.- Rep. Zooey Zephyr (@zoandbehold.bsky.social) 2025-12-28T18:20:12.992Z

You don't ease your wife's hang-ups. You respect her current boundaries. Where you're saying your son is nearly a year old, I'm seeing a woman who is not even a year out from giving birth for the first time. Your wife's position might change again if you can exercise patience. If you push the subject, though, you're likely to create distance, resentment, and a rigid and eternal "no" on this practice.

Most parents have been in a situation where a great aunt holds out her arms expectantly for a young child to dutifully provide a hug, and our child doesn't go rushing forward. The dynamics in this situation can be tricky for a lot of people, particularly in families where parents feel likely to be judged and criticized. Nobody wants their relatives to be offended and certainly nobody wants relatives huffing to others that our children are unfriendly or rude or ungrateful.

Giving a sexy present requires careful consideration. If you proffer a heavy-duty vibrator, piece of bondage gear or other bit of serious kit, the recipient may feel obliged to use it with you straight away so as not to look ungrateful even if they're secretly a tad intimidated, or aren't ready to get freaky before the leftover turkey's been turned into stir-fry.

In my late 20s, I was in a Dom/sub relationship with a much older man. He had complete control over my sexuality and enjoyed sharing me with friends and strangers. I slept with several hundred men in those years. I know some people would find that extreme, but it was fun, consensual, and as safe as possible. I'm approaching middle age now and have settled down quite a bit.

You wrote that you know you would think less of him. If you're certain, or even fairly certain, that you will lose a significant amount of attraction or respect for your partner if you proceed with a particular sex act, the situation is more high-risk for the relationship than a turn-off or a lack of interest would be. "Mean" here would look like using language of shame and judgment when talking to him about it: "Ew, gross, I'll never see you as a man again."

Dear Uninhibited Roomie, In United States culture (at least), it is completely reasonable to expect that anyone you encounter in a nonsexual/non-relationship context will be clothed. If someone is comfortable with being nude casually, it is up to them to announce this to and confirm that it's OK with anyone who might have them in eyeshot. There shouldn't be surprises unless they are completely accidental (like, if your roommate thought he was home alone, but oops, wasn't).

Two French policemen have been charged for allegedly raping a young woman while she was in custody, with one of the suspects apparently filming the act on his phone. The officers were initially suspended after the woman accused them of assaulting her earlier this week while she was in custody at a court in Bobigny, a town in the northeastern suburbs of Paris.

French criminal law currently defines rape as any kind of sexual penetration committed using violence, coercion, threat or surprise. It does not specifically mention consent. But after the change the criminal code will define rape or sexual assault as any non-consensual act. It states consent must be informed, specific, prior and revocable and cannot be inferred solely from the silence or lack of reaction of the victim.

Actors are, by and large, people pleasers. To have a standoff about scanning when you are in the midst of a scene annihilates your creativity, engenders fear that you will never work again, that your agent will drop you. So you comply. Lead and supporting actors, stunt performers and dancers have all told the Guardian of similar experiences on set, of being ushered into scanners despite being unclear on their rights relating to the biometric data produced.

In many ways, taking a break from sex is an act of self-care, says Naomi Zelin, APCC, a sex and relationship therapist at Humbly Elevated. There are plenty of reasons to say no, whether it's due to something physical, mental, emotional, or all of the above. If it isn't making you happy, or if it's complicating your life, it makes sense to step away.

Seven months before I met Viv, my marriage had just ended and I was having the best sex of my life with a good friend. Mindblowing, incredible sex where I discovered that I was into being demeaned and flogged. The depth of trust required made me feel really safe, turned on and even cared for. Things ended with that friend when she moved abroad. I was still grieving the loss when I matched with Viv on Tinder.

Stop believing I wanna see it or that I'll understand, I don't and I won't. If you're just trying to troll me, I've seen way worse, I'll restrict and move on. But please, if you've got any decency, just stop doing this to him and to me, to everyone even, full stop. It's dumb, it's a waste of time and energy, and believe me, it's NOT what he'd want.

OpenAI has a new version of its Sora AI video generator, and it's being launched alongside a new social video app, also called Sora, on iOS. The app, currently invite-only, resembles TikTok. But instead of encouraging people to stitch together duets, it asks you to record short videos that anyone can spin into new AI-generated deepfakes - with your consent.

If he did something even slightly similar to a stranger, it'd result in a lawsuit. If he did it to a co-worker, he'd lose his job.

"I do not find the evidence of [the accuser] to be either credible or reliable." Justice Maria Carroccia stated that the Crown could not meet its burden of proof.