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Psychology
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4 days agoPsychology says the loneliest form of love isn't being unloved its being adored for a version of yourself you've been performing so long that the real you has started to feel like the imposter - Silicon Canals
The worst loneliness is being loved for a false self that no longer exists.
Mental health
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1 week agoPsychology says the most dangerous form of loneliness isn't being alone. It's being surrounded by people while performing a version of yourself that none of them would recognize if they saw you at home on a Sunday afternoon. - Silicon Canals
The gap between one's public persona and private self creates a profound sense of loneliness.
Psychology
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1 month agoThe specific loneliness of being surrounded by people who only know the version of you that makes their life easier - Silicon Canals
Social environments reward performance over authenticity, creating a false self that leaves people feeling isolated even among close friends despite surface-level connection.
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1 month agoThere is a specific kind of loneliness that comes from being surrounded by people who only know the version of you that keeps everything together - Silicon Canals
The better you are at managing your emotions, the less emotional support people offer you. It's not cruelty. It's perceptual bias. People take your composure at face value because it's efficient for them to do so. A study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that people consistently underestimate the emotional needs of those they perceive as high copers.
Psychology
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1 month agoThere is a particular kind of loneliness that comes from being surrounded by people who only know the version of you that makes their life easier - Silicon Canals
There's a concept in relational psychology called the "false self," originally described by Donald Winnicott in the 1960s. He argued that children who learn early on that their authentic emotions are unwelcome develop a compliant, socially palatable exterior - a self designed not for expression, but for survival. The false self smiles when it doesn't want to. It says yes when it means no.
Psychology
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